Generally speaking, I consider myself to be a forbearing and empathetic individual. However, I realized recently to my horror that there are limits to my compassion. I am not sure what to make of this defect in my character. Perhaps part of me is terrified to think of what would happen if these limits didn't exist. For instance, if I could empathize with Hitler, would that mean that I was capable of committing genocide myself?
There are several subcategories of people that I find myself unable to empathize with or be compassionate towards. Here are some of them:
Mass-murderers and those who commit genocide top the list. MrC likes to remind me that even Hitler had a mother and probably loved his wife. I have difficulty believing that. I find it revolting that he could think there is inherent good in someone who delights in torturing others.
Child molesters and pedophiles. MrC has a friend who sexually abused his toddler. Ick, ick, double ick. I find it impossible to forgive the man, despite his life-long relationship with my husband. I can no longer see past this person's sin. I feel such revulsion at the thought of hurting a child that just thinking about it makes me want to scream.
Men who abandon their wives without support. I watched a friend go through hell a few years ago when her husband of 10 years left her when she found out she was pregnant with their son. She lost her job when the baby was born, lost her home (since it was provided by her job), lost absolutely everything. The husband was previously a friend of mine, and although even the wife forgives him, I still harbor deep anger and hatred towards him.
Men or women who emotionally manipulate their spouse or children. I see it as emotional abuse when anyone consistently and systematically makes their spouse or child feel like they are going crazy, like they are pitiful and worthless, takes away their power, is overly controlling and manipulative, or when they play the "martyr card" after manipulating someone to do what they want.
Do you have anyone on your list of people that you can't find it possible to forgive? If so, how do you deal with this in light of God's admonition to forgive all?