Ms. Hardy compares her experience with enforced adult celibacy as "remaining a child in a woman’s body". This characterization, together with her related experiences with "daylight dates" reminded me of various posts on Ward Gossip that poke fun at the infantilization of Mormon single adults.
I have a hard time separating the "Law of Chastity" doctrine from the prevailing Victorian notions of female purity. "Licked cupcake" lessons and admonitions to women to avoid being "walking pornography" combine in my mind with the sexualization of children. A particular testimony meeting comes to mind where a woman discussed returning Christmas gifts for her toddler girl. The toddler had been given a tank top dress. The woman bore her testimony of the importance of modesty, even from a young age.
Non-celibate Mormon leaders tell the faithful LGBT member to remain celibate throughout her life, in the hopes that she will be resurrected "with appropriate attractions to the opposite sex". How ironic it is for a married father of 5 to tell others to eschew a life of love and fulfillment! And what is the consolation prize? Why, the promise of becoming straight (or a TK Smoothie)!
And don't forget the religious rhetoric against masturbation, or how it can lead to homosexuality. If an average 10% of individuals are gay, what did the other 85% of masturbaters do to avoid the curse?
So many ideas crowd together in my mind that I am left wondering if there is a way to effectively teach premarital chastity without objectifying women, or demonizing the body. How much my opinion has changed from my days of being a practicing Catholic or Mormon. I no longer think that sexual repression is a key to a healthy premarital relationship. Instead, I see an over-emphasis on modesty and sexual self-control as unhealthy mentally and physically. Surely a chaste life of repressing all sexual expression is antithetical to happiness.
Like Ms. Hardy, I believe our bodies are meant to be lived in.